So over the years I’ve had my fair share of toxic relationships. Too many to talk about one specific relationship as they all had their ups and downs. I’m not saying I was always the angel in the relationships but I always saw the good in the guys who were chasing me and never the bad .
I spent years with the wrong type of ‘boys’. What is the wrong type of guy? There is no universal answer to this question as everyone seeks something different. For me it was the guy who wasn’t supportive enough for me, who never wanted to fully commit to a relationship at the hope that something better would come along for him. This always left me pondering why I wasn’t good enough , was there was something I needed to improve on to make him “ see the light “ ; this couldn’t be further from the truth . There was nothing wrong with me, and you can’t change someone else’s feelings.
As a young woman, I had pretty low self-esteem and being with a guy right or wrong I would find comfort and security. It took years to change this patterns. I had to break relationships with guys I thought loved me yet were damaging my life with drugs and alcohol. Fun, transformed into a false sense of security. They didn’t have my back and never did. Yet this was clouded and I didn’t realise until I found myself alone when I needed them most.
I want all the young women out there to know their worth, know they’re beautiful and that they can decide who they want to be with. Be strong and don’t let the wrong guy dictate your life. Be patient because the right one is out there for you. He will be supportive, love you, compliment you and make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.
The choice is your own. Don’t make my mistake, don’t spend wasted years learning the non-committal guy will never come around.
I’m a strong believer in Fate, god has a plan for us all.
When a good guy comes into your life who understands you, accepts you and challenges you to continually improve yourself; he is a keeper & he will commit his entire life to you. Hold onto him and don’t let go.
Lesson number 7: Know your worth; Don’t waste time committing to the non-committal guy.